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Things We Don’t Do

May 3, 2015 By Lena

Scrolling through my iPhone, I came across a picture of my husband and I, taken at the Grand Californian Hotel at Disneyland Resort, last August. In the photo we posed casually; the epitome of summer vacay mode, enjoying the hot Cali climate.

To the detached observer, the picture is unremarkable. Two thirty-somethings, a sunny local, a side embrace. To us, it’s a little more meaningful.

It was, in fact, the first photo we’d taken together since 2009.

Apparently, there are things we don’t do.usHowever, generalizing this way is grossly incorrect. It’s true; we don’t take photos together. But maybe it’s just a symptom of a much greater problem, and I should really be describing it as such:

We don’t make time to get in the picture.
We don’t make date night a priority.
We don’t put enough value on capturing our own memories.
We don’t emphasize our uniqueness as a couple.

We don’t insist on acknowledging that our roles as husband and wife are just as important as our roles as father and mother. 

This year, we’re changing that – starting with our upcoming visit to Walt Disney World as part of the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration. All conference attendees have been awarded a complimentary Memory Maker. Disney PhotoPass Service gets everyone in the picture – and Memory Maker allows me to download all of my favorite digital photos taken at the park, on rides, with Disney characters and while dining.

We’re excited! We’re planning on “mom and dad only” photos. We have no excuse.

Do you make time to take photos with your significant other?

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: couples, Disney Social Media Moms Conference, Family

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  1. michael

    May 3, 2015 at 7:57 am

    True. Not to mention I am going to photobomb every one of your pictures as well

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 11:44 am

      At least I know you read my blog from time to time.

  2. kristen visser

    May 3, 2015 at 9:09 am

    This is soooo true!! Especially since having our two daughters we definitely do not take or think to take photos of each other. We are so caught up in taking photos of our daughters which isn’t a bad thing but it is extremely important to stop and take photos of each other as well. We went on a date night the other week and while out for dinner, there’s my husband and I in our booth snapping selfies. People were looking at us like what are they doing but I didn’t care. we were long over due

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 11:46 am

      Ahhh I totally need to do a photobooth with my husband :) Happy you made some more memories!

  3. Jennpup (@jennpup)

    May 3, 2015 at 11:06 am

    Can’t think of any ‘couple pics’ since we’ve had kids. Thanks for this reminder! Time to celebrate ‘us’ more. And I look forward to your Disney pics! Have the BEST time! :-)

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 11:46 am

      Thank you Jenn!

  4. Harmony Allen

    May 3, 2015 at 11:35 am

    Guilty. With four kids we kind forget about making theses things a priority too. Thanks for your transparency:)

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 11:47 am

      My pleasure, Harmony :)

  5. Athena

    May 3, 2015 at 11:36 am

    This is too true. It’s been a long time since we just had a picture of the two of us :(

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 11:47 am

      A lot of couples are guilty of this!

  6. Judy Cowan

    May 3, 2015 at 11:45 am

    Now that you bring it up it has been a long time since we had a picture taken together…oops :(

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 11:47 am

      It’s so easy to forget, isn’t it?

  7. Keri

    May 3, 2015 at 12:08 pm

    We don’t have kids and still don’t take pictures together!

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 12:14 pm

      Gah Keri – do it now before you never do it again! LOL

  8. Michelle B

    May 3, 2015 at 12:16 pm

    We have a few selfies but no posed pictures just the two of us since we had our first son in 2009.

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 12:16 pm

      See? I knew there were others out there. Time to change that Michelle!

  9. Lynda Cook

    May 3, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    I too don’t have any pictures of my hubby and me together, well I have some but they are old, and today the way it stands there won’t be any taken either until I lose weight, I hate getting my picture taken!

    • Lena

      May 3, 2015 at 2:17 pm

      Oh Lynda I completely understand. But it’s wonderful to have memories to look back on!

  10. Margaret Imecs

    May 3, 2015 at 3:02 pm

    Spending more time together is as important as taking pictures. I learned that during the years. I was focused more on the kids and the house and my husband on fishing with friends and our marriage fall apart.

  11. Jan

    May 3, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    My children are 21 and 19. I don’t have many recent pictures of them with me or of my husband with me as I am usually the one taking the pictures. You are writing about something I know too well. I guess I should have more pictures of me in them so when I pass away they will remember what I looked like!

  12. Treen Goodwin

    May 3, 2015 at 4:36 pm

    Ya i’m with Lynda on this to lol , i so hate my Pic taken, hubby is the same as me ,but its not a weight issue , hes just not a picture person , i have some couple pics but there’s not many i can say i like … You guys look amazing tho :)

  13. jan

    May 3, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    We have a 13 year gap between photos of just the two of us!!! How does that even happen?

  14. Susan T.

    May 3, 2015 at 6:01 pm

    I never include myself in pictures at all! I don’t have kids so I find my pictures don’t usually have people in them!

  15. JaimeeM

    May 3, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    I have this same issue with my husband, lol.

  16. Debbie Watson

    May 3, 2015 at 8:55 pm

    My hubby is the one usually holding the camera. His other excuse is he feels he is not photogenic. It’s like pulling teeth getting us together. Thank goodness our daughter got married and we finally have some together shots. Like he had a choice…lol

  17. Amie Green

    May 3, 2015 at 9:57 pm

    I realized the other day that I haven’t been doing a great job with taking photos with myself and my son. Or just myself. I have so many of just him. Or if it has me in it, I’m not wearing a bra or I had just woken up! Lol!
    Im starting to challenge myself to take more pics. :)

  18. Heidi c

    May 4, 2015 at 1:41 am

    If you were to look at our family of photos, my children would be motherless since birth since it is me always taking the photos. And, pics of my hubby and me together? Few and far between. Time to get cracking on making some photographic memories, i’d say! Thanks for the inspiration!

  19. caryn salagenau

    May 4, 2015 at 11:47 am

    This blog post is so true Lena, as we get busy doing for our kids that we loose ourselves as being a priority in our own lives at times!

  20. Tara Elias

    May 4, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    we’re terrible with taking pics too! kids pics, yes… but just us? never! :/ this year it’s our 10th anniversary so we’ll have to try!

  21. Chandra O'Connor

    May 4, 2015 at 1:52 pm

    I can’t even remember when we had a picture together.

  22. Catherine Brown

    May 5, 2015 at 4:10 pm

    We haven’t done that either and I think we should make a point of doing it more.

  23. nicolthepickle

    May 6, 2015 at 6:42 pm

    I haven’t taken a pic with my Dh in ages either. Thanks for the reminder.

  24. Stephanie LaPlante

    May 12, 2015 at 9:00 am

    I must say you’re a very cute couple

  25. Anna Wolak

    May 18, 2015 at 11:18 am

    So true. We definitely need to take more photos.

  26. Melinda L.

    May 22, 2015 at 10:26 am

    He doesn’t like having photos taken, so it’s rare to have picture of the two of us. I’m gonna try and sneak one this weekend ;)

  27. Guppy

    May 24, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    I hate getting my photo taken with anyone so I have very few that actually contain my spouse and me.

  28. kathy downey

    June 2, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    My hubby or myself are usually the ones holding the camera,my kids are grown and left the nest and doing a photo book for a family reunion a few years ago,I was shocked we only had 3 photos other than our wedding of both of us together..

  29. Victoria Ess

    June 29, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Aw this is such a nice photo! My partner and I are also notoriously bad at taking pictures of ourselves and capturing memories.

  30. Tania Monaco

    July 2, 2015 at 9:08 am

    I am guilty of the same thing. It’s either my hubby and the kids, or me and the kids, but never just us together. I’m trying to change that too!

  31. kathy downey

    February 16, 2016 at 11:23 am

    I love the photo,its so important to make our own memories…when Mommy & Daddy are happy everyone is happy

  32. Debbie White Beattie

    June 20, 2017 at 11:15 pm

    I’m curious to know if you’ve kept your idea and you’ve been taking couple pictures. I don’t usually take pictures of very much so we haven’t had a joint picture in years

  33. kathy downey

    July 25, 2017 at 11:43 am

    I’m a grandparent now and my kids are looking for photos of me with them and i only have a few because i took all the photo’s and didn’t like getting my photo taken.Wish i could turn it back !

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