• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Listen to Lena

Perfecting the Art of Conversuasion

  • All
  • Family
  • Lifestyle
  • Food
  • Travel
  • Fashion
  • Beauty
  • Decor
  • About Lena
  • Contact

Saying ‘I Do’ to Being in a Wedding Party? Budget Carefully.

May 25, 2015 By Lena

Is there *truly* a way to balance “Oh my gosh, I’m SO happy for you, of course I’d love to be your bridesmaid!” with: “Er… destination wedding? Designer dress? Bachelorette in Vegas?”

How much is this going to cost?

I’ve been there, and I can absolutely relate. On one hand (at the risk of sounding cliché), it truly is an honour to be asked to be part of someone’s most special day. There’s a strengthening of ties, deepening of friendships and a certain privilege associated with being a member of the bridal party.
IMG_2800 (2)On the other hand, there’s the not-so-small matter of the costs. And trust me, they can add up quickly. In fact, a recent TD survey found that almost 40 per cent of Millennial and Gen X Canadians who have been in a wedding party say they felt pressured to spend more than they could afford, and the amounts can be significant: half (50 per cent) of those surveyed said on average they spent (or plan to spend) between $200 and $599 to be in a wedding party; yet a quarter (25 per cent) said they actually spent $600 or more for the average wedding.

“Most people can expect to participate in quite a few weddings throughout their lifetime, particularly when they’re younger and their friends or family members are getting married, so including the related costs in your annual budget is a smart thing to do,” said Raymond Chun, Senior Vice President, Everyday Banking and Personal and Indirect Lending at TD. “Having a realistic amount in your budget also helps you stay within a spending range that you’re comfortable with and know you can afford.” 

Is it any surprise that being in a wedding party may cost more than anticipated? For ladies, it’s customary to budget for the cost of your dress, plus co-hosting duties for the bridal shower and bachelorette. However, unless you’re also factoring in salon costs for hair, nails and makeup, tickets to attend bridal shows with the bride-to-be, new shoes and (often) new undergarments, dress alteration fees, hotel and/or travel costs, wedding day-related costs such as babysitting or pet-sitting, etc… trust me, you’re budgeting too low.

“One of the best ways to cope with the costs of being in a wedding party is to start saving money as soon as the engagement is announced so you don’t have to scramble to find the money when asked to take part in the festivities,” said Chun. “By setting up a separate tax-free savings account and depositing a regular amount into it each month or pay day, you’ll be able to build a savings fund for things like wedding attire, the gift and any related travel costs.”
DSC_0760 (2)So, how can you prepare for the costs of participating in a friend or relative’s wedding? Here are some tips:

1. Set a realistic budget. Include all of the possible costs, including wedding attire, grooming, gifts (including a shower gift), the bachelor/ bachelorette party and travel. For out-of-town weddings, remember that booking travel and a hotel room as soon as possible can often help to keep those costs down, and make sure to check if the bride and groom have volume discounts at the hotel.

2. Establish a savings plan. Figure out how much time there is until the wedding and set up a regularly scheduled deposit to a Tax-Free Savings Account so you’ll be able to save to help cover the expenses.

3. Choose a gift early from the bridal registry. There can be a wide range of gifts (and prices) in a bridal registry, with the less expensive ones often selected early, so don’t wait to choose your gift or you may be left with one that costs more than you budgeted for. For more expensive items, consider teaming up with another bridal party member to split the costs.

4. Redeem credit card reward points for as many expenses as possible. Depending on the type of credit card you have and where you shop, you may be able to use your reward points to cover the cost of a gift and your wedding attire as well as any hotel and travel costs. Whatever money you’re able to save by using points can stay in your Tax-Free Savings Account to help cover the costs of future weddings. Additionally, charging the costs to your rewards card will allow you to earn rewards faster.

5. Shop around. You don’t have to buy the first bridesmaid’s dress, shoes or other accessories you find. Do your research online and in-store before making a purchase as many stores could carry the same designers at different price points.

With wedding season already in full swing, it’s a great time to establish a savings plan for upcoming or future wedding party costs. And if all else fails, make sure you take advantage of the open bar!

Filed Under: Lifestyle Tagged With: tax free savings account, TFSA, wedding budget, wedding party

Previous Post: « The Memory Maker
Next Post: Things You Think You Don’t Need but Trust Me You Really Do »

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. Anne Taylor

    May 25, 2015 at 12:07 pm

    Great tips! When I got married (the first time haha) I remember purchasing all of the dresses for everyone myself.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 1:15 pm

      Ahh the good old days :)

  2. La Cuisined'Helene

    May 25, 2015 at 12:20 pm

    Thanks for the tips, you really need to save in order to have a nice wedding. Love the pics!

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 10:48 am

      Thanks! You’re absolutely right, Helene.

  3. Jackie M

    May 25, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    Thanks for the tips. I’m at the tail end of planning my wedding (and has been in a wedding party and will be in another one in 2016!) and I can vouch that it can be a savings sucker for both the bride and the bridal party. I agreed that there are some times that I do feel pressured to spend more than I needed to. Starting a short term savings would help these moments for sure!

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 10:50 am

      I couldn’t agree more with you, Jackie.

  4. Guppy

    May 25, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Makes me glad I’m antisocial lol! The only wedding party I’ve been in was my sisters when I was 17 – she had to have me :D

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 1:16 pm

      Ha! We’re all different :)

  5. Judy Cowan

    May 25, 2015 at 2:21 pm

    Great tips! I have been in a couple weddings and it doesn’t take long for the costs to start to add up.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 10:53 am

      Thanks, Judy!

  6. Debbie S.

    May 25, 2015 at 10:26 pm

    It can be very expensive especially when the wedding is a destination wedding. I guess people will also have to learn to say no, if it really is not in their budgets. This can make hard feelings, but not everyone can afford, especially if they are still in school or starting a family, and buying their own home.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 10:56 am

      Well said Debbie. I agree with you.

  7. nicolthepickle

    May 26, 2015 at 8:09 am

    I think people have an unrealistic expectation of what weddings should be now. I’m all for a good party, and a simple service.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 1:16 pm

      Different strokes for different folks!

  8. sarah sar

    May 26, 2015 at 8:15 am

    Gosh…I wish so many people read this post. I was asked to be a bridesmaid at a wedding once…a week later they decided to make it a destination wedding. Oh how my wallet cried for years!!!

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 1:17 pm

      Ahhh so unfair! That should be disclosed up front!

  9. Soozle

    May 26, 2015 at 8:55 am

    Oh gosh, I have been in MANY wedding parties in my lifetime! While it is flattering indeed, the cost CAN be overwhelming.. I haven’t thought to use card points though in the past .. I guess another idea would be to shop through a place that offers cash back on purchases made through the site… Every little bit helps :)

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:01 am

      That’s a good idea Soozle.

  10. Florence C

    May 26, 2015 at 3:32 pm

    When I got married I had someone make my dress and I purchased material and my sister-in-law made the bridesmaids and flower girl dresses. Weddings were simpler and you provided all free liquor.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 1:29 pm

      Those were the good old days, Florence.

  11. Susan T.

    May 26, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    My best friend had her wedding in the Caribbean which was awesome but expensive! I used Airmiles for the flight.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:05 am

      Susan, using your airmiles for the flight was an awesome idea!

  12. Athena

    May 26, 2015 at 10:33 pm

    It can be pricey to be part of a wedding party. I think it’s important that the bride remembers it is her day, but it shouldn’t cost others a fortune to take part in it.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:05 am

      I completely agree with you, Athena.

  13. JaimeeM

    May 27, 2015 at 8:07 am

    The cost of a wedding is the one thing as to why I refuse to get married in a big styled one… takes so much money, and I always see it as money that could go elsewhere to improve quality of life.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 1:29 pm

      Smart thinking!

  14. Stephanie LaPlante

    May 27, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    It can definitely get expensive if you’re not careful. Excellent tips.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:06 am

      Thanks, Stephanie!

  15. Heather Cameron

    May 27, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    Awesome tips! We just had our destination wedding in January, in Jamaica!

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:09 am

      Oh wow! Great to hear that Heather and congrats!

  16. Tara E

    May 28, 2015 at 1:13 am

    great tips! when i planned our wedding, i made sure that being in the bridal party wasn’t going to be a financial burden for anyone. we kept it simple and affordable.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:11 am

      Thank you Tara. Great way to plan a wedding.

  17. JaimeeM

    May 28, 2015 at 9:35 am

    Being in a wedding party can get VERY pricey. Budgeting and sales can be youre best friend,

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:12 am

      I completely agree with you, Jaimee. :)

  18. Marissa

    May 28, 2015 at 9:48 pm

    Thanks for the awesome tips Lena and I love your beautiful pictures!

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:12 am

      Appreciate it, Marissa.

  19. mrdisco

    May 31, 2015 at 11:45 am

    Just be careful that you observe your TFSA limit and to wait till the following year to re-contribute if you don’t have excess room.

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:13 am

      Thanks for the tip.

  20. kathy downey

    June 1, 2015 at 1:37 pm

    Thanks for the tips sure to come in handy for anyone getting married.I love the photos

    • Lena

      June 4, 2015 at 11:14 am

      Thank you so much, Kathy.

  21. Wanda Tracey

    June 2, 2015 at 1:14 am

    Thank you for the great tips and I know from experience that it is very costly and the best thing to do is save to cover the expences and have the wedding day you dreamed of.

  22. Melinda L.

    June 18, 2015 at 9:27 am

    Great tips. Luckily the only wedding party that I’ve been part of, the bride was super understanding and it didn’t cost too much more than I expected

  23. Victoria Ess

    July 13, 2015 at 11:09 pm

    Oh god, I wish I could even DREAM of spending $200 to be in a wedding party.

  24. kathy downey

    August 16, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    When i got married we rented everything,my dress the tux,s bridemaid dresses actually even the shoes.Honestly it made for a stressles wedding

  25. Debbie White Beattie

    November 16, 2016 at 11:07 pm

    I think that nowadays things are costing way too much and the bride can’t expect everyone to be able to afford everything and if your strapped for cash tell the bride and ask her to find someone else.

  26. kathy downey

    May 28, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    My son is planning a wedding and i have send him this link for tips which are sure to be a big help,with all the excitement cost can rack up quite quickly if you don’t plan carefully.

  27. kathy downey

    September 12, 2017 at 11:53 am

    I`ve been told your tips certainly were helpful !

Primary Sidebar

Lena Almeida

Toronto Blogger, Social Media Strategist for Listen to Lena Inc. Television & Radio Personality, Columnist and Speaker. Family Travel Expert. Star Wars Fanatic. Perfecting the Art of Conversuasion. Read More…

Connect with Lena

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter

Featured

Guardians of the Galaxy: Cosmic Rewind, Virtual Queue Strategies

Five Cool Tips for a Backyard Ice Cream Bar

Beaches Turks & Caicos: Your FAQs Answered!